After 5 days of latent labour I ended up in hospital on a Monday morning for induction
After 5 days of latent labour I ended up in hospital on a Monday morning for induction. All these days until that Monday I wished, hoped that our baby will come but nothing happened to make labour progress so the midwife booked me in for induction. I was happy and confident that our baby will come…we planned and prepared for a home birth…our home birth but it didn’t happen. I had a beautiful birth plan but it just didn’t go as planned, or at least this is what I felt on that Monday morning. My body knew exactly what to do…my baby too! I trusted me and I knew I could do it as planned: calm, happy and confident!
On that Monday morning I had mixed feelings but I deep inside I knew and I believed my body and baby know what to do! So after scan, monitoring and breaking my water the so waited labour started fast…very fast! During monitoring me and my birth partner( my husband) listened to MP3s and we relaxed.
So when the surges started very close and I almost run to birth place I/we was/were relaxed and happy that soon we will met our son!
Once again my body and baby knew what to do! And there and then I was totally in control of my body, my wishes, my labour… when I got to birth place I wanted to sit in the pool ….the midwife didn’t believe me that everything happens very fast as I was in control and I tried to be relaxed and focus on the breathing and relaxation techniques that I learned. I planned for a minimum intervention birth and I got it! The midwife didn’t check me at all because I said no thank you when I got there…I knew exactly where the baby was and he was on his way to met us very soon. Before breathing the baby out(4-5 surges before I met our baby) the midwife asked me if the surges stopped…I smiled and said no they didn’t…she thought I looked too calm to have a baby. But minutes after the baby head came out. I know will sound silly but that moment I panicked a bit… no one was telling me what to do! Only my partner breathed every breath with me but I will talk about him in a bit, he deserves it!
The fact that I was having my baby and that feeling that is only me and him ( my partner) on that moment in the world and we are about to give birth to our son….that moment was precious, unforgettable…the last seconds before baby came I will treasure them forever.
With the next breath I was holding our baby and I was so happy and proud that I did it! We did it!
My husband was my rock, the shoulder to cry on, the arms that hold me during every surge! My man breathed with me, he held me, then told me how good I am doing, he stroked my face and he gave me water, he relaxed with me that day! He left everything behind that day, and it is only me and him that know what I mean. He is strong and he gave me strength! He knew how afraid I was not to go through all of this by myself and he was there not only with his body and his phone( like I saw other partners to be at the ward where I was induced) but he was there with me, by my side, knowing exactly what he needs to do! He was confident and only then I realized how important is for them too to feel confident and in control! I trust him….he knows me and we work best as a team!
You know that feeling when you just like someone and you admire that person and even trust her and you’re very opened to listen and learn from her? That happened with us and Bex! The day I listened to birth affirmations posted on facebook I knew I want to do hypnobirth. I learnt lots and lots of techniques, I learnt more about myself and I learnt a totally new perspective about birth! I had two best people guiding me: Bex through all the preparation and 2:1 session( she even wrote me the morning of the induction and gave me confidence and strength) and my husband through labour and beyond( he even made me a smoothie after birth bless him! He still does!).
Choosing to have people that understood and respected my wishes of hypnobirthing helped a lot! I got the perfect birth on the day! I had such a beautiful birth! Now all I have is a baby to cuddle and memories to treasure!
Thank you my love for being there! Thank you Bex for all your help and knowledge! Xx
“After they break waters… I cuddled him in 2 hours amazing!” Text received on the day of his birth
Welcome, I am Bex! I am an antenatal and parenting coach who uses an holistic approach to guide and provide information from preconception to your child leaving home. So that you can make informed decisions which are right for you and your family.
I am highly experienced at coach can tailor your experience to met your individual needs. I has over 30 years experience working with families and children. 14 years experience of Coaching and Training Organisations, Professionals and Parents from foundation level to post graduate level of formal qualifications.
I can cover all areas up to an hours travel travel from Gravesend in Kent.
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